How To Talk To Your Husband About Sex
Perhaps you would agree that one of the most challenging aspects about marriage has to be about talking about sex to your husband, especially if you have never tried doing so in the past. But then again, you would also agree that it is a conversation you must have if you want your relationship to work. Good communication leads to better satisfaction in bed, which further leads to a stronger marital bond.
Proceed with caution and passion
Do not approach the topic about sex like it is a problem that needs to be solved (even if in some cases, it has become a problem). Men tend to shirk away from nagging wives, and most especially so when the issue is about sex. Do not approach it as an academic issue that needs to be learned either. You will only contribute to each other's awkwardness and you will get nothing out of it.
Instead, make it part and parcel of your love-making process. Gently, but with much anticipation and gusto, issue an order for your husband to do things to you that he has never done before. Or, initiate a talk about fantasies, and present what you want from your husband as a fantasy you would want to be fulfilled. You would be surprised by the determination he is willing to put in to make your fantasies become a reality.
Suggest, initiate and play
Erotic and romantic games provide great venues for you to talk about sex. For instance, you can cut strips of paper and distribute these equally between you and your husband. Tell him to write on each of the paper strips sexual things or favors he wants from you. Do the same, and when you are finished, put all the strips in a hat and take turns drawing from it. Take turns fulfilling what are written there and you would be sure to have a fun time without getting awkward. However, you should get your game face on and actually do, or at least try to do your part. You cannot expect your husband to perform better if you yourself does not want to give more.
Listen and look for signs
You may think your husband does not want to talk about sex, but when you come to think of it, he actually has been dropping clues for you. Listen carefully to his side comments and always try to improve your performance. Know however, that men are not very good at figuring out clues so do not rely on these to get your point across. Be creative but not accusing, and gently prod your husband to talk about intimate things and to talk about sex.
More importantly, love your self. You will not be the confident woman who can initiate playful sex talk with your husband if you are weighed down by your insecurities. Free yourself from these whenever you get inside the bedroom, and get the sex talk going!